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Jul. 19th, 2008
To 'B' or not to 'B'...
Jul. 19th, 2008 03:42 pmhttp://www.bilerico.com/2007/08/why_i_dont_do_bi_1.php
Writing that, I thought of a moment last fall when I first met a fairly prominent feminist writer/editor of my generation (after months of e-mailing), and she met my partner, who’s a guy, and later that night said to me, “It’s funny, cuz I totally assumed you were queer.”
“I am queer,” I had to say back. “I am.”
“Oh.”
Reading things like this brings me back to something I had always sort of circled around before I entered into a relationship-does being with a man make me het/does being with a woman make me gay, if those relationships are more than flings?
http://www.angiebowie.net/bisexuality.htm
Too many parts in this I'd like to quote, so just click. I know she says something like how many bisexuals only have true physical relationships with one gender, but still feel an attraction towards the other.
I know this is random, but it's something society sort of forces us to think about. If you're not changing partners/genders every weekend, you're not 'really' bi.
Fuck that.
I'm not queer. I'm bi-pansexual. "I like kissing and the perfumed flavor of nipples, their fullness and pampered erection when touched.". My girlfriend, Giada de Laruentis, Andrea Corr. All of them make me melt. But so does hearing Liam Neeson talk, seeing Ewan McGregor moon a crowd or kiss Jonathan Rhys Meyers, watching Brian Molko sing or Bowie molest a microphone stand. Would I ever enter into a relationship with a man? Before, I would have said 'maybe'. But now I have to say no. Knowing what I do about my body, I don't think I could ever be comfortable with a man, at least not a straight man. Maybe a FTM, but even that could be too close to home anymore (though k.d. lang will always do it for me).
I love men in makeup, girls in suits, and everything in between.
But, as it stands, I am perfectly happy to have a 100% female (even if she's not quite a lady ^_^) to have and hold for as long as fate allows, and to dream about snogging boys in dresses.
I think that makes me a little more than queer. If people don't agree, tough.
Writing that, I thought of a moment last fall when I first met a fairly prominent feminist writer/editor of my generation (after months of e-mailing), and she met my partner, who’s a guy, and later that night said to me, “It’s funny, cuz I totally assumed you were queer.”
“I am queer,” I had to say back. “I am.”
“Oh.”
Reading things like this brings me back to something I had always sort of circled around before I entered into a relationship-does being with a man make me het/does being with a woman make me gay, if those relationships are more than flings?
http://www.angiebowie.net/bisexuality.htm
Too many parts in this I'd like to quote, so just click. I know she says something like how many bisexuals only have true physical relationships with one gender, but still feel an attraction towards the other.
I know this is random, but it's something society sort of forces us to think about. If you're not changing partners/genders every weekend, you're not 'really' bi.
Fuck that.
I'm not queer. I'm bi-pansexual. "I like kissing and the perfumed flavor of nipples, their fullness and pampered erection when touched.". My girlfriend, Giada de Laruentis, Andrea Corr. All of them make me melt. But so does hearing Liam Neeson talk, seeing Ewan McGregor moon a crowd or kiss Jonathan Rhys Meyers, watching Brian Molko sing or Bowie molest a microphone stand. Would I ever enter into a relationship with a man? Before, I would have said 'maybe'. But now I have to say no. Knowing what I do about my body, I don't think I could ever be comfortable with a man, at least not a straight man. Maybe a FTM, but even that could be too close to home anymore (though k.d. lang will always do it for me).
I love men in makeup, girls in suits, and everything in between.
But, as it stands, I am perfectly happy to have a 100% female (even if she's not quite a lady ^_^) to have and hold for as long as fate allows, and to dream about snogging boys in dresses.
I think that makes me a little more than queer. If people don't agree, tough.
