Bachelorette

Two Tori quotes I just saw while browsing the phorums that just make me smile

The way I see it, the men that I'm with, whoever they are, it's like look, you have to accept that I like ice cream, and I know it shows up on my hips but if you can't accept that, then leave. Go away. Toodles. It is non-negotiable.

Women must understand that simply attacking or hating all men is just another form of disempowerment. A woman has to realize that when she makes a man crawl it doesn't give her power. All it will do is make her puke eventually. Rather than say--all men are bastards-- let's say--all men are infants, until they decide to be men--Calling them bastards is boring at this stage.

That second one...I'd seen quotes where she said that women can't attack men because it is disempowering, but I never saw her say it that well. And the first one is just so awesome, I'll have to make that part of the requirements for people I date: I will never eat low cal food unless it is the only thing avalible, and I will not deprive myself of my treats.

Afraid of the light?

So....last night, I listened to From The Choirgirl Hotel for the first time in awhile. I think I needed to turn around and go back there after walking with Scarlet. And the girls at the choirgirl, they started giving all these suggestions. One of which the muses are thinking about taking. Going through this healing I've been hit with the fact that while there are resources for rape survivors, finding support/resources for friends and family of survivors is harder. Thus, the Choirgirls and the muses are thinking it might be a good idea for me to take the very barest of bare bones of what happened and fictionalize it. After all, I've always been best at showing my messages through words and stories. However, I'm fearing it slightly. I don't know if it would help me or undo all the healing. What do you guys think?

Boys Don't Cry

spacequeen posted about movies that make her cry, and I remembered one of my favorite tear jerkers: Boys Don't Cry, the film about FTM transgender Brandon Teena/Teena Brandon My copy vanished quite awhile ago (must get it for birthday!) but...well, some trivia and quotes.

Trivia

To prepare for her role, Hilary Swank lived life as a man for at least a month, including wrapping her chest in tension bandages and putting socks down the front of her pants much the same way that Brandon Teena did.

Hilary Swank won the lead role of Brandon/Teena after hundreds of other actresses had been considered and rejected over the course of three years. She told director Kimberly Peirce that, like her character, she was also 21 and came from Lincoln, Nebraska. But she was fibbing, and when Pierce later confronted her with the lies, she responded, "But that's what Brandon would do."


Those make me respect Hilary Swank so much, esp. when you also add in all the work she did for her other notable role, Million Dollar Baby. I admire her dedication.


Quotes

Lana: I hate my life.
Brandon: I hate your life, too.

Brandon: Boy, I really fucked up. I borrowed one of Candace's checks. Then I got that speeding ticket, and now it's all in the papers. I just need to learn to stay home, huh?
Lana's Mom: I invited you into my home and you EXPOSED my daughter to your sickness! Did you ever think about Lana in all this?
Brandon: Yes, ma. She's all I think about.

Lana: (to Brandon when he tells her *falsely* that he is a hermaphrodite) Shut up. It’s your business. I don’t care if you’re half monkey or half ape, I’m getting you out of here. [not actually sure about that one, someone else got it for me, damn I need the movie again!]