I'll show you what I can be

[axeslade]

You'll never pass for male

My mother to me, as I was discussing the fact I want to cut my hair much shorter than it is now.

I'm impressed with myself for not flipping out. I kind of laughed, and said I had no intention of passing.

Not a complete truth, but not a complete lie either. I'd like to pass some of the time. I'd like to buy some boy's clothes and go out somewhere new and see what happens.

But...it was like when Chris assumed I wanted to have complete GRS. I wasn't offended so much as...sad.

I know it will take time for genderqueers to gain the acknowledgment that transgenders have. But, damn, it hurts when people make that assumption. It's like a comment I remember dad making way back when (I think it's in this journal somewhere, actually) about bisexuals being unable to 'pick a team'. What if we don't want to? What if neither team wants us all the time?

*crawls back into her hole*

Comments

[spacequeen.livejournal.com]

I keep learning from you. I never actually really 'got it' that some people are comfortable being both, or neither for that matter.(poorly worded, but I'm still grasping it).

If asked to briefly define 'genderqueer', how would you answer? I ask, because in my research, I get so many broad definitions and sometimes conflicting answers.

Love you for being patient with my ignorance.......♥

[axeslade.livejournal.com]

Oooh...yeah. See, I think it's hard to define because it means different things for different people. Some switch genders monthly/weekly/daily etc., some are a permanent blending (like I plan to be)...I think it's more...a state of mind, where your mind/spirit doesn't conform strictly to either end of the male/female binary. Not a great def., but I just woke up. (I have sooo many things to tell you when I get back ^_^). I would suggest Gender Queer Revolution, I believe they define it pretty well in their spiel on who their members are. Thins like 'boidykes, girlfags', etc.